GRR sorry it's not behind a cut. I haven't done a cut in months and forget how, so I need to go practice that. :( In the meantime, you get this.
My wedding is on October 7 this year. Things have started getting into full swing as of late. One of the big things we're getting into motion right now is finding a church. My fiance is catholic, as are his parents. I wasn't raised catholic, but "christian"- protestant. My FH and I haven't practiced for years, and neither have his parents. However, we realized we wanted a religious ceremony, so we started scoping out churches last year, well before Christmas. We attended one, St. Michael's, that I really liked. It was a VERY charismatic catholic parish. When I went to church as a teenager, I attended on that was VERY charismatic. After attending that church a few times, my FH realized that he was more traditional than he thought. (it doesn't have pews or Kneel benches). So the church hunt was on again!
So, on Sunday, myself, my fiance and his parents attended the parish his mom had her sacrements in when she was a child. St. Joseph's. It's a cute old style brick church with old dark wooden pews. It's bright, roomy, beautiful and just plain full of good feelings inside. And the priest, Father Khrystian is just like santa claus. All of the children love him. They stood in line to get/give a hug. It was adorable. The priest walked down the centre of the church and shook hands with people who were sitting on the ends (myself and my fiance). He made eye contact when he did this. The mass was quite pretty. It's the first time I've heard bells used during the communion. A good time was had by all. As we left the chapel, he greeted everyone and shook our hands.
Anyway, so after church, we all went out for brunch and talked about church. We all agreed that it's a great little church and that father Khrystian is cool. (my FH's parents are looking to join a parish too).
Well today, I called the parish to find out how to go about getting married there. I explained that we attended on Sunday, met the priest, loved him, and that we would like to join the parish. I told the woman my wedding date, and (isn't this just my friggen luck!!!)was informed that the father will be in Africa from the end of Sept to the End of October!!! ARGGHHH!!!! and the priests that will be covering are retired dudes who just want to do mass, and NOT do weddings!
Anyway, I talked to my fiance, he talked to his mom, I called the church back and asked that (once we're members of the parish), could we have our wedding in the church, but find our own priest. The woman said he'd have to be part of the Calgary diochese. The guy we want to ask is the Father from Medicine Hat (St. Patrick's), a city a few hours away from us going south. This priest married my FH's sis and bro-in-law--they're both in our wedding party--(like 8 years ago when he lived in Calgary. (it was at a different parish). My FH has family in Medicine Hat. and in fact, in a few years, my FH and I are planning to relocate to Medicine Hat. Anyway, apparantly he IS part of this diochese. YAY! So then the lady asks me what time I want it for on that day, I tell her 2pm, and she says there's another lady looking at having it on that day at that time. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! We're begining to feel like we're cursed! GRRR!!!!
My FH and I have attended the Church in Medicine Hat. We (along with his parents) went and visited his mom's Aunt Marg last September. It's a BEAUTIFUL parish and if it was hours closer, we'd pursue it as a place to get married. When we move to Medicine Hat, we're planning on getting involved in that parish.
So basically it's like a race now. Which ever of us can get our shit together first I assume gets it. So now my future MIL has to contact the Priest in Medicine Hat (and get her great auntie to put in a good word for her with the priest ;) and talk a good game to him. We'll see if there's any family clout in Medicine Hat. Great Auntie Marg (and her late husband, Uncle Tony) is a VERY active member of that parish. In fact, late Uncle Tony and Aunt Marg donated the chalice the priest uses in the communion.
So this sunday, we have to go to church again and this time we have to fill out the new members form and leave it for them. However, my fiance works, so it'll be me, his parents, and (I assume his sis and BIL) And that day I'm going to a wedding fair with my futre SIL, my other attendant and my Future MIL, and her good friend. What a day that's gonna be!
Anyway, I just wanted to vent/bitch/whine a bit.
I hope other people's journeys haven't been this hard and frustrating.
Thanks to whoever listened/read this bunch of babble!
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